Securing a self image

I read a bumper sticker the other day that said something along the lines of "women who follow the rules don't make history!"  I also was listening to a motivational speaker on CD who said that life isn't worth living if you don't offend someone.  This really got me thinking. 
Last year I would do whatever I could to NOT offend anyone.  To agree with people just to avoid a conflict or discussion.  This might not sound like a big deal but it really limited me and how I could grow as a person.
Starting last year I started making more decisions and taking so much more into effect when thinking about my life, and more especially my sons lives.  I have ALWAYS done what is best for my boys, but I didn't realize that not knowing who I was limited me in helping my sons grow. 
I am thankful that I figured this out before it has any effect on my boys.  They are my life.
I have stepped out on my own, I am self supporting, and I am now loving my life!!
I use to look at life and judge other people's happiness.  I wanted to be the happy girl, the one that walked around and didn't care about what others thought about her because she was secure about her own self image.  I believe that I am to that point.  I have lost 60 pounds, and am confident that I am looking better than ever before, and making the correct life decisions that are going to allow me to go far. 
Something to talk about later is going to be restraint. . . Thanks for listening to my crazy thoughts!!